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My kids. Not much else though.
Gotta love the kids, I made this post after getting my youngest to bed and having my heart feel so full of love
Thank you for this thread. Iβm a little misty-eyed and feeling so wonderfully blessed. Pumpkin Tikka masala and coffee for breakfast (I know, right?!), mixed greens, tomatoes, blueberries, strawberries, mozzarella with good balsamic vinegar for lunch, for the time in months, I made a half-gallon of iced tea, sweetened with local raw honey, fur baby sleeping next to me as I enjoy the sound of the storm, outside. So many have no meal, no roof, no companion. Itβs nice reading the simple pleasures here. No one mentioned their private jet, Bugatti, haute coture. Itβs nice when we recognize the real riches life grants us.
My pleasure, itβs been a treat hearing about all of the different ways people are soaking up life right now, including all th wonderful things you listed here π
Ha. My kids is the best AND worst part of my life π
My crow bro, Kenny. Most days I go for a walk after work and meet up with him to feed him some peanuts or dog food.
This is so fucking cool, nobody I know has a crow bro. How did yβall grow to be friends?
Crows are smart. Look at them and toss some unsalted peanuts in their general direction and theyβll understand what youβre doing. After a couple of visits theyβll recognize you and slowly get more relaxed around you. They each have their own personalities, where some will be easier to befriend than others, so just give them space and time.
That all of my recent health issues the last 3 months were temporary.
GOOD. You need your health, and I find itβs the uncertainty that can be so stressful
I am about to get married =)
Congratulations to you, I hope you have a lovely day and life together β€οΈ
Iβm aware that it makes people cringe, but itβs so true that Iβve never been more happy; more bottoms than a top could ever ask forβ¦ Enough to over come the negativety from all the judgemental or bitter queens.
Stoked for you, and Iove that description β€οΈ
Not more stoked than I; Iβve never had a busier social life and my asocially autistic ass is still surprised by it each time I get another invite.
Super happy for you and wishing you lots more happy years ahead! β€οΈ
Iβm not a top, but I know that feeling, and itβs amazing. That was my entire year last year. It was so freeing and empowering. Donβt do things that harm the sustainability of that like meth or smoking. Keep your health up and keep drinking water and hygiene. Take care of yourself and youβll just continue to get more and more powerful :)
I never thought of it as powerful before and I like it! Lol
If everything goes according to plan, Iβm moving to Europe.
Thatβs so cool!!
Itβs gonna be!
Which country do you plan to move to?
France
live in canada rn, definitely gonna do the same.
The fact i already have citizenship from birthright helps
From Canada?! Why? (If I may ask)
Partly a cultural thing, i already speak french fluently and i like the culture in france more than the culture of QuΓ©bec (canadaβs french speaking province, where i live).
But also practical, i want to live in a walkable city and the only real option in QuΓ©bec is almost as expensive as living in parisβ 19 arrondissements. I could find a nice place thatβs less expensive to live in in france, at least, i hope.
edit: where are you moving from, actually?
Ok I get it now.
From the middle-east. Iβm going there to find a software developer job, hopefully.
Iβm actually looking at a similar job :)
Good luck though! Iβve heard that immigrating to france is pretty hard if you donβt have bloodright citizenship
This post. There are a lot of negative news in the world and Lemmy feels often pessimistic. Reading everybodyβs answers made me feel lighter, so thank you for the question
Iβm glad you are enjoying it, and as am I, itβs been so nice to read about all the good in everyoneβs lives.
I feel like Lemmy is kind of like anything else in that you get out of it what you put into it to a degree.
Sobriety. 2 years 3 months since Iβve drank.
Still relearning some aspects of being an adult. Figuring out who I am. Picking up old hobbies again and trying new ones. So many things bring me joy nowadays where it used to only be alcohol that triggered the ol happy brain chemicals.
Iβm in a much better place than I was a couple years ago when I was abusing alcohol as a coping mechanism.
Dude, you and me quit at almost the same time!
Nice! Congrats my dude. Wouldβve been closer to the same day but someone gave me a bottle of whiskey for Christmas that year and I hadnβt told anyone I was trying to quit yet
Oh hell yeah congrats! I dated an ex alcoholic (very close to dying) and his thing now is running, eating ultra efficient nutrients like honey and liver, and not using soap ever for anything. Heβs one of the happiest guys Iβve seen in a long long time. Though, he does preach a bit, I can understand his zeal hahaha
Thanks :) I donβt really talk about my sobriety with a ton of people in person, still some shame associated with who I used to be, appreciate being able to share online.
And yea exercise in various forms is one of my big things now, definitely relatable, I try not to be preachy about it. Lifting, swimming, and rollerblading recently. I need to do more yoga thoughβ¦ Iβm in wayyyy better shape than I was two years ago, feeling almost as good as my college athlete days.
If it means anything, Iβm of slim-average build and working in my 20s (painter in construction) destroyed my knees and Iβve been walking a few times every week for the past month to rehabilitate them because Iβm tired of not being able to do stuff. We can do it! Itβs worth it!
Heck yea! Walking around the block is where I started again a couple years ago. Itβs definitely worth sticking with it. Life got in the way a few times and I had to be gentle with myself and repeatedly remind myself that progress isnβt linear, and that doing something is better than nothing.
What do you think about the idea that people need to actually realize their mortality before being able to really live?
Not sure. Iβve never really reflected on that idea. It certainly seems to be true for me personally.
My alcoholic years had some pretty ugly parts and could have killed me several times. Severe depression, self harm, suicidal thoughts, wrecked my car (thankful it was just me and a steep curb, no one else involved, that could have been so much worse), a hospital trip, walking 2 miles home by myself at 3am almost every weekend while hammered in the middle of a US city known for its crime and lowkey wanting someone to try to mug me, etc. Let alone the physical damage that 50-100+ standard drinks per week at my worst was doing to my body, luckily none of that seems to be permanent, I was scared to get my blood work done for the first year alcohol free, but it came back fine.
I donβt like looking back on that period of my life, but Iβve come to terms with the fact that it happened and I canβt change that and mostly been able to forgive myself.
So while it was ugly and could have killed me, shit at parts of it I wanted it to kill me, at the same timeβ¦ I wouldnβt be who I am today without all that (and a lot of therapy and self reflection and journaling and all that fun stuff). I really genuinely like who I am today. I havenβt been able to say that for the majority of my life. And I find a lot more appreciation in the little things that I used to be too numb to see. Iβm doing things I enjoy solely because I enjoy them, not because my family or parts of society say itβs what Iβm supposed to be doing.
I donβt think I want that statement to be true for humanity as a whole, at least not in the way that I faced my mortality, I hope there are other ways people can get to a point where they feel truly alive. But yea I think itβs true for me.
Hell ya, Iβm a teetotaler myself. Nothing like sobriety over the long term, keep up the good work!
Right this very second, my chicken preening herself next to me, occasionally pausing to make sure I see her preening herself so that I continue to sweetly praise her
That is adorable
I was able to revive my old PlayStation 2 thanks to Hacks and Homebrew and Iβm replaying several games from my childhood apart from playing several others that I couldnβt at the time, and Iβm having a wonderful time.
Iβm interested in knowing the titles youβre playing, if you care to list them.
Oh the list of all the games is veeeeery looooong, like 70 games, but my current favorite that I couldnβt play in the day are:
While some that Iβm replaying because they are really REALLY good are:
Soul Calibur 3!!! Yeah!!!
Have you played Raw Danger? Itβs one of the best PS2 games. Itβs soβ¦ PS2 era. I love it so much.
Its in my play-list! I may play it next after I finish Psychonauts.
Yusssss! Iβm going through Psychonauts right now as well, LOVE the game! I donβt have a place for my CRT TV right now, so Iβm on a computer for that one.
I REALLY wanna bust out my CRT and PS2 and Afterhurner and play some DDR Extreme sooooo badly
Ahh. I wish I had a crt and a place to put it. I want the one I had as a kid and a second really big nice one.
Ooo Iβd love a bigger one. I think mine is 21β or so. I miss the 27β I had growing up! But this one is a flat CRT, had component and S-Video cables, and has a DVD player built in so I can watch my DVD of Not4Sale: TV Sheriff and the Trailbuddies. So Iβm not complaining.
Hell ya, got deep into the wii / wii u homebrew stuff for a while. I completely missed the PS2 and really that whole generation of gaming growing up. What are you playing?
Iβm currently playing Psychonauts and Downhill Domination (This game is so cool omg).
Going check those out
I discovered pcsx2 (ps2 emulator) a week ago and have been playing granturismo 4, so happy!
Pcsx2 is the best it can be nowadays. I remember using it years ago and how difficult it was to configure it, but now it runs like silk even on outdated hardware like my PC, I donβt know what black magic the team behind it did. After the original hardware, pcsx2 itβs the best option to play the Ps2 gems.
To me it seems like itβs THE best option to play ps2 games. Can run them at a bigger resolution and saving states can be used as a little cheat
You can do the same in the original console with Homebrew apps.
I donβt think GSM changes the render resolution of the game, but only the output resolution.
At least that was my experience when I tried it last over a decade ago.
I made a shit tonne of brownies and ive had 2 cups of sugar in one day alongside 5 cups of coffee. WHAT A DAY TO BE ALIVE
PS. Folks add pomegranate molasses to your pantry and your brownies. One of my favourite ingredients to give a dish complex depth in flavour, works with sweet and savory.
Sugar for all its supposed evils really does bring me daily joy
You should also try date molasses. You can find it at basically any Arab market.
The bees. All our hives made it through winter and a fairly mild spring so far has given them a boost. Queens are laying like crazy, workers are working hard.
Iβve started wearing very thin gloves while inspecting the hives after realising that they make it less likely Iβll be stung, because I can be gentler. A bonus is that I can feel the warmth of the bees, and that really does bring me joy.
omg youβll be among the saviors of the world, given the way bees are going according to the news.
This is so cool, especially the bee warmth, I never thought of them putting off much heat, but I imagine with enough of them they would!
The home server im setting up. I can finally break free of the clutches of cloud storage.
Oh buddy, Iβm right there with you. I just got a free cpu and mobo off marketplace and got my own thing running, I had so much fun figuring it all out
What? people just give away computers?
Actually, the thing that is causing me stress is also my source of joy.
I quit weed last week. Going through withdrawals which are pretty bad, but I know in the long term, itβs going to be worth it to have a clear mind.
Been there too many times to count, you got this!
Wedding prep
I think a lot of people find that stressful, but really you get to tailor a big party that includes all of the closest people in your life to see you celebrate love
Iβm more excited for the future after the wedding, to be honest, haha. Itβs just most fun to be in the moment right now is all.