Older brother… Grew up together, hated him for a long time, perhaps unfairly as mother is really responsible. Kinda fine with him now
Younger sister. Love her dearly. She’s off keeping her distance from the family and so am I and so we never really talk.
Younger sister 2. Adores me. Makes bad decisions. All I can do is support her. Love her to bits.
Younger sister 3. Living the standard good life. She’s fine, doesn’t need anything from me or vice versa.
Younger brother. We get along great. Reconnected recently. Look forward to seeing him again. We have a lot in common.
Younger brother 2. We worked together for a few years, weird being his brother and his boss but we’d had so little contact it wasn’t too weird.
Now I write this down I realise there’s so much story here. Really interesting!
For reference, I’m in my early 40s and I helped raise most of my siblings to different degrees. Taught them to read, to use the toilet, that our parents are pointless 😁
There’s an abundance of material to study, I’d suggest starting here. https://books.google.com/books/about/Counselling_Skills_and_Theory_5th_Editio.html?id=ua9VEAAAQBAJ
Techniques to manage the intensity of emotions sit between the parts you’re describing.
I agree that Inbetween the feeling rising up and our reaction there’s a choice to be made. Highly intense feelings overwhelm and reduce our choices in the moment.
Understanding what’s underneath or behind our feelings is one excellent way to do this which sadly doesn’t work for everything, especially the most intense feelings
Yes it is. Evidence is against you on this point when we’re talking about population level behaviours, individuals vary of course which includes you
Not that experienced people are less able to consider other opinions, simply that when we’re younger we depend more on volatile social acceptance metrics combined with having had less time to firmly establish our own preferences.