seem to sign that they are a company that want to pay as little as possible.
Isn’t that nearly all companies? Personally, from a pragmatic stand point, I think it behooves one to put up with some level of that until one builds enough of a resume to be able to be choosey. If they prove to be downright abusive, or what you have to put up with harms your mental health, move on.
Don’t expect companies to be altruistic. How well they treat you will tend to depend on your value in the job market, i.e. how much they need you vs how much you need them. You likely need to deal with some unideal situations to get yourself to a point where they see you as valuable.
What if you’re in the middle of one of these?
This. It can be exhausting. I feel compelled to reassure the person that I’m not upset or whatever. It makes a big deal out of something i’d rather not be expending any social energy on.
Here’s an exaggerated analogy of what is like: imagine that every time you sneezed someone came over all concerned, like 'are your alright? are you sure? do you need a doctor? ’ and you had to explain that it was no big deal and that you were ok.
It also reminds me a little of people who cut themselves down, making you fell like you need to tell them, ‘oh no, you’re not ugly / stupid / a jerk’ or whatever.
like most things, conversation skill is mainly not a conscious thing. any skill a human is reasonably good at is done mostly by unconscious parts of brain, under only loose direction from your conscious mind. most things happen too quickly for deliberate conscious reasoning, which is rather slow. you can’t expect to create a set of rules to run through in your head while you converse. it is more like training a neural net, or an llm or something. you give it feedback, like when you make someone angry, you tell it ‘don’t do that’ (ideally just in the form of feeling bad) and eventually it learns. but it takes time.
There is no ‘supposed to’ about making friends with people you work with. Some may have that opinion but lots of people have made friends with coworkers. Sure if the friendship goes sour it could get awkward at work, but lots of people can navigate friendship without drama.
It’s hard to tell nuance from a text rendering of that conversation, but it potentially sounds like you were rude to coworker 2, reacting dismissively to their comment.
I just measured my usual toilet and while the hole is more squarish than the round one in the picture, the 16.5 length is about right. I don’t have any problem. I’ve got average sized junk, and have maybe a slender to medium build.
Maybe weight, whether one is a ‘shower’ vs a ‘grower’, or some particular anatomical proportion play into it, I don’t know. Maybe how far back one sits is key. Maybe people vary in their butthole to junk measurement. But I don’t think this is as universal a problem as OP thinks. But, hey I’m all in favor of a longer toilet standard for those for whom it is.
How do you feel about oatmeal? It’s healthy and has much more potential for adding flavors to than most people ever consider. It’s pretty neutral and makes a good canvas for other flavors.
For example, you can add cheese to make something like a healthier Mac and cheese. The starch makes it sort of creamy.
But you might want to upgrade from rolled oats to steel cut oats. You get much more “tooth” to your oatmeal and not just mush. Unless the mush is what you like. You can also use whole oats for even more “tooth”.