It’s certainly a problem, not least because most attempts to start something up attracts men who only want to complain about how it’s all the fault of those devastatingly powerful women and everyone else gives up. But there are some surviving spaces, like the Men & Boys Coalition.

None of the contradicts anything I said. I explicitly said it.

This is the damage wrought by patriarchy. You are not competing with women to get your case heard. It is the exact same case.

What legitimate issues do you think I’m being dismissive of?

The official position is Minister for Women and Equalities.

And the easy answer to this Tory troll is that (middle-class, white) men already dominate political, economic and social life. Everything is filtered through the eyes of people like them, they don’t need a special platform to get their viewpoint across.

But, this is a lot like March 8th (International Women’s Day) being full of plaintive cries of “why isn’t there an International Men’s Day?”. There is an International Men’s Day and it is a very good thing. It makes sense in a way that “why isn’t there a white history month?” does not.

There are many points of similarity and difference between the various forms of prejudice. And one of the things that makes sexism unique is that prejudice against women inevitably creates a mirror prejudice about (if not intentionally against) men. If being feminine means having emotions other than rage, men are allowed to experience only rage. If being feminine means caring for others, men are not allowed to care for (or about) others.

While there are certainly forms of feminism which are anti-men (most notably the transphobic strain currently getting more attention than it deserves), feminism is fundamentally as important for men as it is for women and the issues facing men exist precisely because of the history of subjugating women. Women’s rights are not in tension with men’s rights (unless you mean the demands of damaged and damaging men who insist that they should have the right to rape women and keep one at home as a sex doll, housekeeper, incubator and child minder).

This article is not perfect but it does make the broader point well: If I Admit That ‘Hating Men’ Is a Thing, Will You Stop Turning It Into a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?:

Part Four: A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On

Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of any gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.

Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.

If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?

here’s nothing otherwise stopping dead posts from being repeatedly revived.

Except that it requires a lot of votes to make it visible again. Which doesn’t happen. Threads die too quickly to be useful, except to people that found them via a search. But posting on old threads is largely pointless because no one is reading them any more.

Nice to who?

Professional printers can do it cheaper than you can, even for a one off. No personal experience with a job like this, but you can buy quite small batches of printed envelopes a lot cheaper than plain envelopes because they get such massive discounts on their bulk orders. It’s not going to be cost-effective for you to do a good job of it.

Search settings for ‘night’, set schedule.

Exactly. Don’t shit on your own doorstep. Shitting on theirs is fine.

Threads may or may not federate with Mastodon. It has not announced any plans to mimic Kbin and handle Lemmy as well.

Most content that gets posted on social media is ‘stolen’ from another social media site. That’s not really an issue.

But there are bots posting up threads from subs like AITA (complete with links to Reddit) where there’s no point engaging with a non-existent OP, so the threads do not get any engagement. And they often get posted in massive batches so it fucks up your feed too.

Lemmy needs to develop its own culture and that is made harder by people trying to make it a mirror of Reddit.

Because you subscribe to communities that are full of old memes and/or because you browse ‘all’ instead of your subscribed feed.

As to why the wider Lemmyverse has too much of that sort of stuff, it’s because a lot of people are trying to recreate Reddit instead of building something new. Or because they’re trying to kickstart the something new by posting plenty of content and, inevitably, much of it is old.

Post stuff you want to see. Engage with stuff you want to see.

I have a friend who suffers from severe depression, inherited from his parents, and he definitely blames them for deciding to have kids when he feels they should have known what hell he would suffer for it.

But this is completely different. You have plenty of time to raise your kids before it affects you, if it ever does. If they inherit the predisposition, they have plenty of time to lead amazing lives before it strikes. It’s a miserable thing that may or may not happen towards the end of life but we all have to deal with miserable things.

You can’t live your life in a way that avoids all of those miserable things. I have another friend who spends a quite unreasonable amount of mental energy trying to avoid bad consequences and it is honestly ridiculous how many much worse things that happen as a result.

That said, you say elsewhere that your partner does not want kids. You have to decide whether the relationship is strong enough to accept that. Are you looking for reasons why you should feel happy about it? Do you have a burning desire for children or is it just something that you assumed would happen because that’s how it works for most people?

Big decisions to make. But none of them have a whole lot to do with Alzheimer’s. If you do have kids, and you treat them well, they’re going to be devastated no matter when you die, or what kills you. That’s not a reason to deny them, or you, the joy that makes it so devastating. Grief is the price we pay for love.

Parental love might or might not be something you want or need in your life. That’s a question only you can answer.

The contrast was between someone who chooses to undress in front of someone else, and someone who chooses to barge in in them in a state of undress.

Defensive? I’m neither a gay man nor a heterosexual woman.

Exactly. Think about it. Look deep inside yourself, find a glimmer of self-awareness, and work out what it is that drives you to post like this.

Maybe read it again, in context, and decide if there are equal rights to initiate that particular interaction (no matter what the genders or sexualities involved are).

Then have a stern word with yourself about being so incredibly defensive that you end up portraying yourself as a sex pest.

The word in question is “exponentially”.

And in any case, no.

Statistics.

That word does not mean what you think it means.

Of course its better to think about it. And you don’t have to think very hard to realise that pulling the answers straight out of your own brain is not going to give you anything useful to think about.

I’ve had people chastising me in this thread for discouraging the OP from educating himself, and others chastising me because he clearly wasn’t trying to educate himself.

I do not know why this point is so fucking difficult to grasp or why you’re all scrabbling so hard to excuse it. The slogan is “nothing about us without us” FFS.

For some reason I cannot see your post in context or see it on the thread. So I don’t know exactly what you’re responding to.

But the question absolutely is making light of it. It doesn’t have to make fun of people to be making their lives harder.

How does having people imagine what it’s like do anything other than reinforce stereotypes? On a very quick skim I can see people saying illiteracy would be fine because it’s so easy to learn to read. And others saying they’ve had to spend time in a wheelchair so they reckon they’d be fine without legs. Shut the fuck up, all of you. Jebus.

There’s been quite a lot of output from disabled people speaking out against this kind of context-free ‘empathising’. Most recently due to some exhibit that has people walk around in the dark so they can ‘experience’ blindness. They can’t. They never will.

Disabled people don’t need a bunch of randoms cod-empathising in the middle of a bunch of other randoms speking their branes. They can speak for themselves. And they do. If only the rest of us thought they were actual human beings worth listening to, and could shut the fuck up for long enough to hear them.

OP is not asking people who are affected by these disabilities to talk about their experiences. He is asking randoms to discuss which is worse, from a position of near total ignorance, for entertainment.