I had a discussion recently with someone about this. Since we don’t really celebrated our birthdays we weren’t sure what’s “normal “.

I go out of my way to not have people know my birthday.

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I guess it also depends on culture. In Latinamerica many people consider birthdays a big deal so forgetting it would be considered a faux pas.

For me personally I care if my partner and close friends remember, coworkers, my dentist, etc. I don’t give a damn but if they so happen to congratulate me or send a gift or whatever, I thank them graciously and try to correspond in the same manner when it is theirs.

For example, my yoga teacher found out about my birthday because SO sent me flowers to the studio so I could enjoy myself starting the day, so said teacher gifted me a box of my favorite incense. It was a nice touch but definitely due to circumnstances. I enjoyed it nevertheless. So now I will be getting her a nice beautiful plant for her balcony.

I couldnt care less. I never understood how people would be angry at others for forgetting their birthdays. Its just a damn anniversary…

I expect my mother and identical twin to remember my birthday. I hope my husband remembers, but would not be upset if he didn’t. (He’s never forgotten)

It’s January 1st, 1970 no matter who (or what) asks

Heh, you old af. My condolences.

But at least that’s a nice round number.

If I wish happy birthday to friends every year but never get anything from them I will be suspicious if they even care for me, yes.

Neither. Its just another nail in the coffin/ thread on the urn lid

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My birthday I keep to myself and whoever remembers remembers haha.

I used to forget others birthdays but the people who matter most to me I’ve made the effort to remember as best I can. Last year I started putting birthdays into my calendar as a recurring event so I don’t miss them. I just set a reminder a week or two prior if I want time to get a gift!

I hope they forget my birthday. Me too, thanks.

Nobody knows my birthday.

For adults unless your throwing a party, it’s not something that comes up.

All my friends remember when by about +/-3 days. Every year I invite everyone to meet for food and drinks one night.

Let them know for those that I want to know get together with. Otherwise if they remember … great, if not no big deal.

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HAHA No, I don’t expect them to remember, and I don’t remind them. In August I’ll be 47 I haven’t had a birthday party, gift, or card since I was maybe 25, the year my mother passed away. I’ve been married for 21 years. Not to be clear, my wife does say “Happy birthday”. But she’s not really a gift giver type of person.

But she’s not really a gift giver type of person.

not even a bday blowie?

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Not to share too much, but that type of gift doesn’t require it being my birthday.

I plan on not celebrating my birthday and only bring it up if conversation happens to lead there, or if somebody asks. Usually somebody remembers and offers a dinner or to hang out. Not a fan of big parties! Too much hubbub.

The only celebrating I do is eating slightly more unhealthy, take the day off work unless it’s going to be a short day, and maybe look to see if any games in my “maybe if it’s on steep sale” list are on sale.

That’s it.

I don’t remind people, I dont expect anyone to remember, but it’s nice when they do.

My excuse for missing people’s birthdays is I DO know the date… I just don’t know what the date today is. Sure I know my sister was born on the 12th, but that doesn’t matter if I think today is the 10th and it’s actually the 15th…

So if I have that much problem, it wouldn’t be very chill to be upset with others for missing mine.

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