There is a lot of evidence that this type of punishment is counter productive and leads to more problems than it solves. EG https://healthy.kaiserpermanente.org/health-wellness/health-encyclopedia/he.corporal-punishment.tm4923
Maybe you can show her those things and point out that those behaviors do not create healthy relationships. If she agrees with him, maybe her relationship is also not healthy, and should be limited.
There’s even a classic jazz song about it.
Let’s Call The Whole Thing Off https://youtu.be/J2oEmPP5dTM
The myth that glass is a very thick liquid. It’s actually much weirder than that. https://gizmodo.com/the-glass-is-a-liquid-myth-has-finally-been-destroyed-496190894
I’m just picturing Lakitu as a gaming systems operator picking the sever up out of the lake and putting it back on the track facing the right direction.
Lots of other folks covered a lot of the details, but I just want to point out that the answer really depends on the architecture of the system that the game runs inside of. Cloud native architecture has component failure as an expected characteristic and it is planned for, which means that architecture avoids unplanned outages better than legacy architectures. Even then, sometimes you end up with a component where you have a choice of investing thousands of engineering hours to avoid downtime during an upgrade, or you just tolerate a few minutes of downtime and spend those thousands of engineering hours on something with a better ROI.
It sounds like you had a lot of bad behavior, but are not a bad person. Time will tell. Keep choosing to do good.