No offense taken at all. I just agree it’s a sad state of affairs.
I don’t mean to be a doomer and I do try to give my kids more than a black and white picture. I’m not a parent who tells them to just suck it up. I support them every step of the way.
But I do try to keep their expectations realistic. I think it’s fair to let them know that what they see in glossy college ads isn’t typical.
Finding a job you actually like can be hard. Working 40 hours a week can be hard. But eventually you will manage it. It’s not glamorous, but it pays the rent.
Usually you have to play the cards you were dealt while you look for better opportunities. Few people can afford to be out of work for a long time. I consider myself very lucky to be able to sit here right now and discuss work/life balance on Lemmy, rather than trolling the Internet for jobs.
I have a kid who’s just starting full time work out of college. I’ll tell you what I told them: you’ll get used to it. You will eventually settle into the habit and it becomes routine.
However, there will be tough times where you need to work hard to motivate yourself to go to work. Those happen.
What works for me during those times is the same that works for me exercising (which I hate): one step, one mile, one day at a time. Tell yourself it’s just one more day to the weekend or to vacation. Have something to look forward to.
Burnout also happens. What works for me there, is to draw an absolutely strict line between work and life. You need to fight for your work/life balance. Maintain friendships outside the office.
When you’re not working, try to do something not related at all to work. If that’s working on improving your health, that’s even better. A healthy body and healthy mind has more energy. Do literally anything except working or thinking about work. If you can’t turn it off, practice setting boundaries until you can.
Finally, and this surprised me as I realized that all the stupid corny stuff we do in the office: luncheons, raffles, TGIF, “just another day in paradise”, and that, are coping mechanisms. Play along, but don’t get sucked into a negativity spiral. Humor can be a great stress reliever, but watch out for HR watchdogs.
I used to do this when I had a 1.5 hours commute (one way). If you can avoid it, don’t do it. The world is not built for people that have to get up at 5 and be in bed by 10. I would run on 6.5 hours of sleep on average and I was constantly exhausted.
If you’re a developer like me, it affects your productivity as well as your health. I would carpool, so I could nod off for a few winks on the way home. Sometimes when I was the one driving. It’s bad for you. Don’t do it.
If you must do it, the key is to make it a habit. Go to bed at the same time every night. Give yourself enough time to fall asleep and get a full 7-8 hours. Put away devices. Avoid any caffeine and alcohol after lunch. Get in shape if you can, it will help you sleep better. Avoid spicy foods in the evenings.
Stick to the schedule even on weekends, or at least don’t try to make up for lost sleep then. It doesn’t work.
You can still tinker, but you will have little time except weekends. Write down your ideas during the week and then hit the ground running when you have free time.
Don’t forget to take time for yourself, family and touching some grass. Your computers will always be there. People will not.
This sounds like an idea related to the InterPlanetary File System, where files are peer-to-peer and cannot be taken offline. It’s not a terribly new idea, but I’ve not seen any widespread implementations of it.
I think people underestimate how difficult moderation is at scale. There’s a reason why The Algorithm exists: past a certain scale, even just wading through a chronological feed of posts and keeping illegal content out of it becomes laborious. You will see influencers on the fediverse complaining about that already. With a P2P system, moderation isn’t just difficult, it’s impossible. Once something is out there it can’t be removed. Finding and maintaining a good balance is just a really, really difficult problem to solve.
Sometimes, that of course is a feature, like IPFS being used to bypass government censorship, but every coin has a flipside.
Yaml editor? Business therapist? Email author? Paid meeting actor? Scrum participant? Office cynic? Idk.