Yeah, I mean this might my personal deficiency that other people don’t have… but if I see a comment I disagree with and then I see that it has been upmodded heavily, I get a greatly increased urgency to shit on that comment to make people see how wrong it is. Totally toxic and encouraged by the scoring system.

As with anything, this is intended behavior but perhaps taken too far by some people.

A points system is the best way to get a sense of what other people think, and whether your views are generally accepted. When you’re in a social setting, you can tell from nonverbal clues (e.g. if you start saying something and people frown/inch away, you know they don’t agree). This is valuable.

When you see something upvoted highly that you don’t agree with, OR something downvoted highly that you agree with, it could be one of two scenarios:

A. You’re right, but people generally have misconceptions about the issue.

B. You have a controversial take on the issue.

It’s not always clear which of these it is. That’s why a lot of internet yelling matches devolve into some variation of “downvoted for truth” or “downvote all you want, facts are facts and you’re just blind” - people think it’s B, the person arguing thinks it’s A.

To combat this, you need the following:

1. Reasoning and critical thinking skills are important. At the most basic, learn to distinguish fact from opinion, but also learn to understand an argument.

2. Be humble. Don’t approach it from a “I must win this argument” mentality - try and understand why they’re thinking that way.

3. Pick your battles. Sometimes you just have to disagree and walk away. Nobody is going to give you a prize for making the last comment in an argument.

Of course, it’s easier to just not look at the numbers. But then why not just… not use lemmy/reddit/internet forums? If this isn’t giving you any pleasure, why read/comment at all?

I don’t know what you’re talking about, there has never been a movie adaptation of the book! Never!

oh yeah, much less jumping from video to video nowadays.

YT could have provided recommendations based on categories you picked out, or countries, or just what’s popular today. Instead they decided to throw a hissy fit and show a blank homepage.

I’m taking it as my detox from social media. Facebook many years ago, Twitter last year, Reddit this year, now YT (although to be fair I still use the subscriptions tab, but it’s made me spend less time on YT).

As a dude I would offer to pay for their cab home, but someone asking for that is a yellow flag.

Asking for me to pay for a bunch of stuff, including the cab, would be a red flag. Unless I’ve travelled back in time to the 70’s or I’m living in Saudi Arabia, paying for my date should be a nice thing to do, not an expectation.

I put out some bait last month to get rid of an ant problem I had in my kitchen, I guess I’m as guilty of mass murder as you are

think of the poor kid who you deprived of a balloon, you monster!

And while we’re at it, adding 10million more users would be great too.

But both of these don’t just happen.

Once you get enough answers here, you could do a ranked-choice poll on which question is most suitable for a ranked-choice poll too!

Income inequality would be lower in my ideal world. The income distribution should be more like the 50’s. A 4 day work week, and eradication of this “central business district” idea. There can still be offices for some people, but offices can be more geographically dispersed, with different sectors in different areas so half the city isn’t trying to get to one spot in the mornings, or leave that one spot in the evenings.

Oh i meant chili as in American chili. Beans and ground beef.

Basically, just knowing how to make something easy for a quick meal if you need to.

Basic cooking.

You don’t need to be Gordon Ramsey, but in a pinch, know how to make pasta, chilli and a few other things.

I feel like the amount of more challenging or unwanted behaviour has gone up just in the time I’ve been here

I see that too, but I attribute that to the growing number of users here. It’s an unavoidable part of growth, sadly.

Unfortunately everyone has a limit for how much work they’d like to put in.

I used to play this RTS called Dune 2000 i think. It was my first ever RTS and it was mindblowing.

…huh, i wish i knew that earlier. I’m gonna search for it now.

I used to do that, but it was a chore to keep monitoring my battery life. I wish there were a “charge phone to 80% and stop” option.

hey you’re the guy who didn’t shit for 3 days! how was the sex party?

Coldest was about -45°C

jesus where was this, the arctic?

I mean, most of the population isn’t buying a new phone every year, it’s just that there are enough people using phones in general that at any given time there are people buying new models. It’s the same reason why there are people buying cars every year.

I personally use my phones for about 3 years. Sometimes up to 4, but usually year 3-4 is when the battery degradation gets so horribly bad and performance stutters so much that I figure if I’m going to do a full reset and buy a new battery and all that, I might as well get a new phone.

hey aren’t you the guy who went on a no-shitting-for-three-days sex party?