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is ā€œabusiveā€ an overstatement?
this has been on my mind a bit, especially as someone who’s faced discrimination their whole life for being autistic. this, however, goes back to fourth grade. i was 9 & 10. my school social worker was named mrs. h, and she acted a lot like a high school ā€œmean girlā€. my dad called her bipolar once due to the fact that she’d be aggressive and rude one day, and perfectly cheerful the next. sadly, i never spoke to s again, but i was once placed in a group with her. nothing ever bad happened with her, except for when she said she didn’t like talking about my interests but mrs. h wanted me to listen to hers. i later found out s didn’t even care if she heard about my interests but mrs. h told her to say she didn’t like it. i found out that s didn’t even like mrs h because she apparently threatened s to say things that were untrue and harmful, and made her (an 11 year old) cry for not wanting to. afterwards, i was in a group with r, t, and z. i only currently know t because neither r nor z go here. i always had these ideas for hangouts with the three so i could make friends during weekly lunch groups with mrs. h, but they’d always be like ā€œnooo… i don’t really want to.ā€ or what z said: ā€œyeah but other people would be left out if only us 4 hung outā€ (despite the fact that z & t always hung out). mrs. h would then be like ā€œlooks like they don’t wanna hang out with you,ā€ and shrug I don’t quite remember what r did, but she was constantly rude. then she’d smile at me and want to hang out. there were several times mrs. h defending my being bullied, said being hit by bullies was ā€œokā€. i also have a history of going on online chat rooms at age 7-8, and every day i was convinced being harassed by those predators was my fault. a **crime**. after all, it was just like mrs. H and everyone said: i did this to myself and therefore deserved my trauma. she asked me once ā€œdoes anyone in your family drink?ā€ i said: ā€œmy dad has a bottle of beer every so often with dinner.ā€ when i came home, my family was angry and told me ā€œmrs. h called and said you told her your whole family was in rehab.ā€ i, of course, never said this. in lunch groups, she would also get mad at me for stimming and wouldn’t let me speak to others, constantly interrupting me and punishing me for speaking when she’d let other kids speak.
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Because i thought their behavior is odd snd apparently i was ableist for that





fine. Let me rephrase this. ā€œDoes anyone else get yelled at for asking basic questions.ā€



learning how to make videogames, learning to program a site, drawing, etc.


does anyone else’s family think their ambitions/goals are ā€œstupidā€?
i’m constantly told to give up on my goals. they’re not even unrealistic, i don’t want to be a big, giant unicorn who saves the world or something.
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what the hell do i do about my sister’s mental health?
my (18f) sister (13f) has severe ocd and depression [is seeing a professional, will take meds]. she is constantly venting to me, walking in when i’m trying to do something private, etc. when i dont respond to her text right away, she tells me i hate her and she ā€œknows i don’t care abt herā€. she constantly wants connections with others, but when they don’t give her exactly what she wants 24/7, she says she hates them and never wants to speak to them again. i love her but idk how to help.
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autism and my dissociation causes me to be unable to talk when im too stimulated



what’s your favorite constructed language? any of you created your own?
i love the idea of creating conlangs. i’ve experimented with the idea of them in years past but have never done anything with them, let alone created one. i did create some toki pona-based ones as they consist of few words (~100) but i want to create ones that aren’t just based off toki pona.
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i will, thank you so much. i told her she could watch tv with me. would it be rude to tell her to stop playing screaming videos because i don’t like those videos ?


he broke up before he said all this. he was clearly into me and hitting on me before they broke up though, and the rest still stands. tysm



my (18f) sister (13f) is convinced i don’t care about her, how do i convince her i do?
a lot of the time, i’m either busy doing something where i literally cannot respond or overstimulated. when i’m overstimulated, i physically cannot talk or barely register what someone’s saying. i also have trouble understanding out loud speech for some reason, where i’m listening but can’t process the words. when my sister asks or says something, i often ask her to repeat it because it’s a lot of information. she says something like ā€œnever mind, you don’t care anyway, it’s not importantā€ when i ask to be repeated. she doesn’t care when i told her why i need it to be repeated. she also thinks i’m mad at her all the time, gets frustrated when i don’t talk (because im incapable), and starts talking badly about herself when i don’t laugh at her humor (which consists of loud screeching and tiktok ā€œbrainrotā€ words) since then, i decided to feign laughter so she’ll not think i’m upset with her. i do try to be there for my sister, but there’s times where i cannot or just can’t talk.
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thanks so much šŸ«‚ gave me the ick a little that he barely acknowledged that i liked girls. he only cared about if i liked guys or had a bf, he only got upset when i liked a guy.

it’s almost as if he was trying to act like i was straight, which was a bit insulting to me. if i had a gf/liked a girl, he would act like that meant i was just single and not attracted to anyone at all.



thanks so much, i blocked him because he wouldn’t stop harassing me. he told me to ditch my bf for him and didn’t care that i didn’t have feelings for him. in fact, he didn’t care much about my personality or identity so long as i was his girlfriend. that’s all he saw, nothing else outside of that.

and even though he wanted me to ā€œtake my timeā€, he was convinced i was his future wife despite only having known me for about a week all because i was pretty and nice to him.

he also didn’t actually care whether or not i liked him, he just wanted me to say yes regardless. i feel like since that was his first time, he’d have sex with me, force me into doing it if i said no, and then break up and badmouth me.


i didn’t know all the details, he just said that she showed signs of schizophrenia and acted weird. i didn’t know her and didn’t know their relationship, but i know he did leave her because she had hallucinations, paranoia, thought objects were real (like dolls), and apparently age regressed a lot. he said she got too clingy and ā€œweirdā€ and even ā€œcrazyā€ for his liking. (which ik that word is stigmatizing in that context because in high school, we were told not to call ppl who showed signs of mental illness crazy)


would dating my ex friend be worth it, do you think he could love me and would calm down if i said yes or am i just thinking this out of sadness?
i just broke up with my bf who ghosted me bc he realized he's gay (im a woman). i don't even think i like guys but i have this compulsion to ask out my friend who i blocked to have a man that treats me right instead of the other guy that ghosted me, and also to make him happy. he kept talking about how he could treat me better than anyone else, that i should've ditched my bf for him (obv i said no), and badmouthed not only his gf of a few years since age 16 but also his first time. he left her bc she showed signs of schizophrenia and she blocked all his socials after he left. he kept guilttripping me when i said i didn't want to be his gf so ik he doesn't care about consent regardless of what he says. he also completely ignored me liking women and acted like i was straight but i feel lonely. i kinda wanna make him happy and have a bf who pays attention to me but ik i'm probably just saying this out of sadness. we were friends but i had to block.
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what’s the difference of behaviors between a person with npd and just an asshole?
how could you tell, since npd is an actual condition, so of course they’ll act differently, but it’s used so often to describe a regular, typical asshole.
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i am currently going through a lot. what can i do to keep my sanity and not become depressed?
i have a lot going on besides that. just broke up with a guy, realized i wasn’t even into guys (but it stung more that he didn’t pay attention to me/care regardless), then having some rocky relationships with my gf (open relationship) and long-time friend, the latter i’m cutting contact with. (meaning i will only talk to her if i have to or if she talks to me first) with all of this, my anxiety’s acting up and i’m a bit (still although it got better) on edge.
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