So my mom asked if I was gay, I told her I’m only attracted to women. She kept trying to figure out what was up (she was nosy and I was trying to leave a coming out letter so I was acting sus af). Anyways eventually she said “well I know you aren’t trans” and I said “about that…” and came out. Lots of crying on both our parts later she was incredibly supportive, but I wasn’t worried as she had already been a vocal trans ally.

My father on the other hand attempted to talk me out of it then hasn’t really spoken to me since. That includes years of living together. Which, points for stubbornness I suppose.

I liked it because it’s a journey with a traumatized teenager. As a teenager who didnt realize I had cptsd it hit hard for me

I’m from around the same place as him and idk either

Im probably too sick to continue my day

I was a mod who decided fuck spez when he killed my app

Southerners are the same way. Nobody calls us yanks as a compliment

As a native speaker yeah though depending on where I am I may assume a non native speaker because it’s an irregular adjective-noun pairing and I know that’s the sort of thing that trips people up

Now I know this isn’t a new observation or anything and I never watched episode 9, but in 7 and 8 Rey felt like just as much of a Mary Sue as Luke did in the ot. Now the well worn observation is that Luke Skywalker is like, the textbook Marty Stu.

Welcome to feminist media analysis. It’s an existing academic field and you can find books and YouTube videos on it (and it can go pretty deep into related topics).

One of my favorite examples was when the creators of Avatar the Last Airbender were deciding to create their sequel about the next avatar they decided to make their protagonist a woman and executives at nickelodeon complained that boys wouldn’t be able to relate to a female protagonist.

The explanation I’ve largely heard that makes sense to me is that women are taught women are generally expected to learn to empathathize with male protagonists whereas the inverse is much more optional. You have plenty of men who do get into wonder woman and she ra and korra, my childhood best friends are among them, but you also get a lot of men who don’t in a way where I can’t think of an inverse that I’ve seen

Depends on the kind.

The good shit: I was just chatting joking with the nurse and doctor then I was really stupid and in pain several hours later

The dentist kind: I was awkward and fell asleep fairly quickly, woke up unable to feel pain but able to feel the vibrations of the drill in my teeth. Everything was fuzzy. Then I barely opened my eyes and promptly got another dose. I then slowly woke up over and over just to vomit in the recovery room. This took several hours. I eventually was able to be walked to the car and remained nauseous and vomiting for the rest of the day

Yeah this. And until I find out, unfortunately my mind goes to the stories I’ve heard. I know that’s uncharitable in the same way that it’d be uncharitable to do the same thing but replace sex work with grocery work or any other mundane customer service job. But yeah that’s where my mind goes

Ok but also, I’ve dated sex workers and that’s why I’m a bit yeeshy around people who hire them until I know they’re cool. I’ve heard stories.

Like there’s absolutely nothing wrong with hiring a sex worker. There are plenty of good reasons to do so. There are things where it’s better to hire a sex worker than to ask for from a hookup. And despite all of that, it’s not a trait that leaves one in the best company. Honestly, the best comparison I can think of is being a lawyer.

Yes. That’s a piece of gravel from popping

Yeah and the problem is, the real world kinda doesn’t care. Code gives zero fucks. If I have to be 250% sure the code is correct because no court can fix it if we screw up that’s just not worth it to me. I’d rather trust in unbiased humans

No because it can’t be revoked when unintended consequences that neither party wants occurs

Cool do they pay for me to travel there? Like I’ve got friends on every coast and I’d be down to work from near their homes for a week or two, but I’m not paying to travel to hang out with my friends after work.

Also what are the odds I keep my vacation days? Like seriously. PTO replaced vacation + sick claiming you get more flexible days and now we all have the same amount of vacation but get to spend it when we’re too sick/infectious to work.

Vanuatan pharmacies are a popular choice

It’s soap. It’s a bar. I rub it on my wife then myself and then we rinse it off.

Arc welding is my favorite shower activity. You need ppe

Yeah this. I have cptsd and so I’ll often want to remember and celebrate some of the beautiful parts of my past but there’s definitely this bittersweet nature there of the fear and discomfort that was present and the trauma that resulted.