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A week ago, my mom figured out how to get through my bedroom door lock: using a screwdriver. I've heard her on a phone call with my uncle, and he showed her the trick. Whenever I don't respond or give in, she could just insert the screwdriver through my lock, and bam, she can come in whenever she wants to.
I've searched online for getting around this, and I've decided on:
- Getting a lock. (or something that (b)locks the door)
- Using a portable lock. (Addalock, any others)
- Using a doorstop.
- Make your own lock. (like using a fork)
But then I thought that my mom would still enter using the screwdriver. The handle's loose, so she knows she's able to barge in. I could be wrong, though.
My door jamb has a dent, so she has a peephole to look in and might figure out why the door wouldn't open.
Should I be able to get a lock? If not, are there any alternatives or other solutions?
**Edit**: Wanted to make a quick edit. My mom shows narcissistic traits, and would barge in the room for her own entertainment. I've tried asking her to leave a few times, ~~even discussing about it with her,~~ but she isn't seeming interested to understand or listen. I would stay as far from her in my room in order to not attract her.
I can list a few basic things (like showering, brushing teeth, etc.) The bathrooms at our house aren’t well maintained, but it’s usually rare to find little to no flies (or any sort of bug) in the upstairs one. Otherwise, I’m not able to use the restrooms to do the things I need to do.
I was considering about finding a support system through chat rooms, although school would be nice, except I remember I would avoid trying to initiate a conversation with teachers, students, etc. through my middle school years. I’ll be a freshman in a few days, so yeah that’s something to think about.
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This is my first time writing a post (and in an internet forum).
Last year, I found about narcissism through a few videos on YouTube. I was able to come to a conclusion that my parents (and some relatives) were narcissistic. They had shown these traits throughout my childhood.
Since then, I've been trying to make a couple of changes in order to help with the situation with my parents (like moving to another room, grey rocking). But it had a few side effects.
I've had to sacrifice self-care for a few months in order to remain low-contact.
I've tried subtly asking them to get self-care products so I cope with most of the things going around at our house (we had a bug/fly problem, and much more).
Nowadays it isn't much safe and I want to be able to change that. Is there any possible way to still live with the situation (until you're at an age where you can get a steady income, have some independence)?
I don’t know much about CPS, but now that I think about it, it’s not really ideal for my situation.