Move away from LW if you don’t like them. There are lots of Lemmy instances with different rules, find one that suits you or self host yours like I do.
Try doing that with reddit now.
Also, mods are mods, its not a Lemmy or reddit thing, but power tripping is just human. Go to 4chan or similar for anarchy unregulated forums, not to Lemmy or reddit.
As for privacy, I already replied separately.
Privacy, do you realize you ate posting publicly? Don’t associate your email to your lemmy user and never post any bit of info that can link to your real self if you want privacy.
There is not much expectation of privacy when you act public I am afraid. At least Lemmy, choosing your instance wisely, will protect your anonymity which is as much as privacy you can expect when going public.
Sorry man, but there can be no expectations of privacy when you choose to be public. At most, you can aim for being anonymous. Create e private non federated Lemmy instance if you want privacy in your Lemmy posts, the federation concept itself cannot guarantee you privacy.
I am all for privacy… Just do not expect it when being public myself in my posts and actions.
Domains are cheap, shop around and get the cheapest 1st level you find, and buy a second level under that one.
For example, mylemmy.eu since .eu are by far the cheapest I can buy over here. It can go from 1 buck to 20 Buck per year, even more for special 1st levels (like .love)
I am king older than most posts i think. It was… different somehow. You would call and text, mostly call. I remember subscribing to one of the first ever mobile offers for “couples” where you had something like 1000 minutes of free calls and 100 free SMSs between only two specific phone numbers (of the same oprator, ofc), and that was amazing. Before that, it was expensive inter-city calls on landlines, because mobiles where too expensive.
I also remember writing letters, yes, paper letters, like twice a week. I have copied them all and kept also the replies, it will be fun times for the kids (… will they still be able to read handwrite?).
I took an awfull lot of trains in that year long… Luckly we where only like 2h by train away, but hey, we wanted it phisical you know, not just voice.
SMS where the big tihng. I remember wanting to replace my phone with one with a full qwerty keyboard… But ended up getting really good at T9 away those 160 characters. And be careful to fit or else! :)
Good times.
Anyway, forget about long distance relationships unless the “long distance” part is very clearly defined in time, no matter what technology is.
And no, it last less than 12 months. It was hard at 20 not to be phisically together for most of the week.