oh maybe read about ‘partner of adhd spouse’

when i read about having an adhd spouse it was comical because all the tough situations they described were just my life and it sounds similar to this. my wife was so overwhelmed she couldn’t function and she needed like 10 hours a day of sleep. And she had no idea why until we pieced it together and she got diagnosed.

‘balance’ definitely part of my complaints though so maybe check it out!

yes, eventually the OS gets reinstalled or I switch computers and i don’t do backups so every few years they get purged unread for the most part.

when it comes to banging shit out, when you need more juice than bash, perl was capable of some crazy shit. I found it really frustrating trying to learn real programming because I was taught perl extremely thoroughly and for most other languages programming exercises you have to get 3/4ths of the way through the book before you’re beyomd what perl can do in a couple of lines.

I eventually learned proper oo programming and compiler languages but there were a few years in the late 90’s and the CGI-BIN days where a solid grasp of perl made you feel like a real hacker-ma’am.

As an example I give you the ‘flip flop operator’, (no idea if perl was the first language to incorporate this, but i saw it there first) which would allow you to parse any data stream, and execute a code block on every line in the data stream between two matching regexes. Absolutely invaluable for screen scraping and would let you hit a URL and extract just the data you needed with about 4 lines of code total, including the library call for the get!

about a tablespoon of each for full batch like that. The espresso is freshly ground. I think i may have added cayenne and onion powder too.

made this dish just yesterday for my meat munchers with roasted pork leftovers, peppers and cumin/smoked paprika/rosemary/msg/espresso/sugar/garlic powder

if you use an instant pot you don’t need to soak the beans just high pressure for an hour gets it done. I pop it into the oven for a couple hours to get the maillard reaction flavoring anyway though. Didn’t do any mashing on this batch as well, by request. a family favorite for sure i do this weekly!

1lb of dried pinto beans, 48oz of veggie stock, garlic, onion, cumin. Cook on high pressure for an hour. Mash it all up and mmm mmm mmmm

I love it so much!

There’s a lot of content so you can browse whatever interests you. My feed is mostly girls (almost) kissing, street food being prepared, pets and interesting questions being discussed. Fashion dancing. There’s this bass guitar girl who is the coolest person i have ever seen she’s like a character from a movie. I have found many queer and transgender people there which makes me feel very welcome. I haven’t received any guff from being openly trans there.

There are very few ads. What there is is influencer style product placement stuff easily avoided. I truly love this aspect.

There is almost no contention. The moderation is swift and heavy handed and if things aren’t kept light they get removed. I have seen serious topics like transgender rights being discussed but no arguing seems to be tolerated and no hate speech. There’s been a couple ‘transgender is a mental illness’ posts i saw before they were deleted but they were all by americans. I understand that political posts are removed.

The people are lovely and amazing. I have a post of my cat with 100 comments saying how cute she is and showing me their adorable cats. Everyone i interact with is very nice and positive and they seem to be genuinely caring. Most of them seem truly delighted that we are there. Some Chinese living abroad lament the anglicisation of what was for them a remote window back into China.

the interface is very usable. I use a translation app to write my replies but XHS added an inline translation button and you can long press some other text for translation so understanding things is generally easy. I take screen captures and my photo app translates any other on screen text.

You can’t use the shopping tab. Eventually you’re presented with a list of chinese cities to choose from and can’t input your own city.

big fat raise