Definitely! I had such a streak of bad dates and relationships that I felt so traumatized. It made me so nervous while dating him that I was literally shaking when I felt that things weren’t going right.
Funnily enough, two years later, now I feel the opposite. I don’t really care about dating and I feel like I’d be the one detached. I just can’t be bothered with giving so much for getting nothing in return anymore.
He didn’t want to be with someone clingy but framed it as codependency, when in reality I was going through an anxious attachment phase because I didn’t want to fuck it up. My incessant worrying was to blame but his lack of empathy made it worse. In the end I think I dodged a bullet because he was a functional alcoholic.
Yes, I’m aware of the obvious