First, if it’s directed at me, I do not engage. Like, at all. If someone is trying to get my attention with shitty behavior, they’re not getting it. If it’s the guy on my discord meme channel who posts incel memes, I really have do have to remind myself not to engage. That one is harder, because I feel like they’re taking away from the quality of the space, I don’t want them in my orbit AT ALL, but they are part of the greater community, and this channel sort of quarantines their brain vomit. So again, I never engage with them, but I deliberately engage with other posters and community members who are productive and positive. In the short term, it’s not rewarding, but in the long term I do feel much better about myself. And finally, sometimes I really do need to step away–maybe it’s into another game, another community, etc. Sometimes I do need to take a break, seek other forms of entertainment and reinforcement. The main thing is not to continuously expose yourself to things that are aversive to you and just stress and stress. You have to break it somehow.
Coworker of mine admitted to using this for writing treatment plans. Super unethical and unrepentant about it. Why? Treatment plans are individual, and contain PII. I used it for research a few times and it returned sources that are considered bunk at best and hated within the community for their history. So I just went back to my journal aggregation.
Okay so I’m a nerd. I didn’t get into YouTube until recently and I just watch storm chasers, airplanes taking off, and power washing/landscaping porn.
I really liked that little crab island shooter. Cute and inexpensive. Not a huge or blockbuster game but pretty fun for me. I need a new FPS after OW2 ruined OW1.
Cut my hours back at work, maybe take a sabbatical spend much more time with my kids, and go to art school. I’m pretty good at it, but it wasn’t in the trailer park cards.
Situational.
First, if it’s directed at me, I do not engage. Like, at all. If someone is trying to get my attention with shitty behavior, they’re not getting it. If it’s the guy on my discord meme channel who posts incel memes, I really have do have to remind myself not to engage. That one is harder, because I feel like they’re taking away from the quality of the space, I don’t want them in my orbit AT ALL, but they are part of the greater community, and this channel sort of quarantines their brain vomit. So again, I never engage with them, but I deliberately engage with other posters and community members who are productive and positive. In the short term, it’s not rewarding, but in the long term I do feel much better about myself. And finally, sometimes I really do need to step away–maybe it’s into another game, another community, etc. Sometimes I do need to take a break, seek other forms of entertainment and reinforcement. The main thing is not to continuously expose yourself to things that are aversive to you and just stress and stress. You have to break it somehow.