Ideas are incredibly cheap. It’s absolutely unlikely that no one ever had your idea. It’s even likely that someone had your idea and it failed, and you don’t/can’t even know about it because no one bothered to record the failure.

Other people have mentioned all kinds of ambitious/proper ways to do this. I’ve got a different view: if you truly think this will work, do a basic version yourself.

Learn basic blender, design 3D printed parts yourself and let someone print them. Use some app builder and tutorials, or hire a programmer for a very rudimentary prototype work. Buy generic electronics. Just get it working once. Then show it to people, let them use it, ask if they would buy it, preferably let them sign a slip of paper not to talk about this product or compete with it (there are standard NDA/non-compete contract clauses online available) or talk to people you can trust.

If you do all this and get positive feedback, then you can start doing this properly and get more people on it, like the other commenters mentioned.

No. Just no. You’re talking about perfectionism basically. Who cares about continuing maintenance? If you get the product out there and working enough to last the 2 years warranty, you’re completely fine. One programmer is perfectly capable of learning the most basic things about the disciplines you mentioned, it doesn’t need to be good, it just needs to do its job mostly.

You have no clue about the scope of what this guy’s idea is since he gave no info. Maybe it’s so simple not even one programmer would have to work on it for very long.

Of course, what you say is perfectly possible to be “correct”, but you just have no way of knowing.

I don’t necessarily think people can be evil.

I know of some of my abusers that they were abused themselves. They knew what they were doing to me wasn’t right but it gave them feelings of power in a world where they otherwise felt powerless.

For others, bullying me was a social sport, just something you did to “belong” to a certain group.

I think what they did was evil, but I don’t think they were evil people. They were normal people with inadequate upbringing put into painful situations that resulted in bullying/abusing me being the only perceived “good” outcome for them. For almost all people who do evil things, this is the case.

I think we all possess the ability to do evil acts in response to certain stimuli, many are just lucky enough never to receive the set of stimuli that causes them to be evil, so they can allow themselves to think they are different, i.e. “good”, and start labeling other people a certain way, i.e. “evil”.

Conversely, I also think all the people who do evil acts are also able to do good acts in certain situations.

What we then call a “good” or an “evil person” is just a person where we perceive a larger share of behaviors attributed to that adjective. But are they evil or good people, is that a quality inherent to them? Or is the environment they grew up in evil or good? Or are humans in general evil or good? Is our perception of the share of each set of behaviors even right?

I think no one deserves for their whole self to be called evil. I think you can call actions evil, and some people may have a lot of these actions, and they’re worthy of being avoided because of that, but I believe they’re the same kind of person than everyone else, just put into terrible situations. So no, I don’t think people can be evil.

Interesting. Thanks for sharing. How did those encounters affect you?

What’s stopping you? No money? :D

Of course they are kidding. People change, you can be a POS earlier and change to not be one now.

For what it’s worth, I would have appreciated as a victim if my bullies seeked me out and truly apologized to me. It would’ve restored a little faith in humanity. I don’t care now anymore, but there was a time.

Of course, any feeling that the apology was fake or forced would have ruined the whole thing and had the opposite effect.

You were lucky to grow up in an environment not triggering your natural human evil.

The main reason I didn’t bully anyone was because I was bullied myself.

I’m 35 and when I grow up I want to be psychotherapist. However, I hate university. Fun!

Makes me think the same. I personally believe that no, the concept in the sense that “anything can change and could theoretically happen” doesn’t exist, but… I also believe it doesn’t really matter either. If there is free will, then anything can happen, if there is no free will, then not anything can happen and it is determined, but since we currently can’t predict the future and determine what’s going to happen, both situations have the exact same outcomes.

For me, most of these philosophical questions that are (currently) not definitively answerable I liked to ponder for a bit, but dismiss relatively quickly. I don’t really care if there is a free will or not, if there is any meaning to anything or not, basically whatever. What I care about is the current situation as far as I can discern it, and my actions that I want to take in the current moment based on that. My biology determines that and I just let it happen.

I’ve never said that anyone “should” have that much control. In fact I literally said almost no one can do it. The controversial thing is me even suggesting that it is possible.

Yeah but you can not suffer and still act to get out of the situation is what I’m saying.

See :D told ya it’s unpopular. Yeah, it’s “victim blaming” essentially. You might not believe me, but I have been a victim most of my life in many situations. I also have or have had mental disorders.

In the end, you can only control yourself. And so while it is of course not my fault if I am being abused or whatever (it’s the fault of the abuser) it is actually very much my fault if I don’t find ways to remove myself from that situation. Of course, every situation is different. The difficulty of “fixing” it, and how to do it, massively differs. But in almost all situations, “suffering” only makes it less likely you’ll get out of it. If you feel too bad, most people are more likely to feel powerless, to not think clearly, to be defeatist and so on.

Life literally always has challenges, things that make you feel bad. No matter how good of a situation someone has, you’ll always find people that are miserable in that situation. I’m saying you can actually be fine with your situation, whatever it is.

Obviously, yep. We are all victims of our circumstances and if you never get in contact with this concept or are not in a mental situation to want to believe it to be true, you’re pretty much out of luck.

If someone betrays you - you can either be upset at this, feel terrible for a long time

Or you can be thankful for them showing their true colors, thankful for the opportunity to enhance your people-reading skills, i.e. learn how to prevent this better (or identify that it simply happens sometimes, even with good prevention skills), perform the correct consequences (i.e. cutting them out of your life, minimizing your dependence on them), and then move on with the new state of life.

I’m not saying one won’t feel bad at first - but there’s no reason to continue with that past the initial automatic reaction, how fast you can “move on” depends on how good you are at this. After handling the situation properly, there’s no reason to continue to feel bad, feeling bad about it is just a motivator to do something about it, if there’s nothing to do anymore, there’s no reason to feel bad anymore.

You can extend the same line of thinking to literally anything - you get fired from your job, you go hungry, you suffer some debilitating injury/sickness, you get put in a concentration camp due to be executed (“Man’s search for meaning” is an example of this).

Which interpretation is this, and what is the other one?

You can change your (psychological) reaction to everything. All psychological suffering is chosen by yourself and can be stopped if you choose not to suffer.

Of course this is simple, not easy. Almost no one can do it.

Most people I meet don’t believe this and hate that I’m saying this.

You can’t really. Only solution for me was to just not work 5 days a week. If you have a good job now… likely 3/5ths, so 3 days a week, will also make you able to support yourself.

If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your week or is your week over?

If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your month or is your month over?

If you shit your pants, do you keep going with your life or is your life over?

I clean up and do whatever I still feel like. The arbitrary border of “day” means nothing to me, same as any other arbitrary border.

As long as it is clearly communicated by him what he’s doing and why, any approach is fine really. So as long as he tells her his exact purpose of the break and what he needs to stop it, all good.

If that is not done, and it’s just a one-sided decision of his to stop talking, not even explaining anything, then it is very bad. It’d basically be like a parent punishing their child and not telling them what for, mentally very problematic. Of course it should be able to be implied by her in some way, but it’s very easy to come to the wrong conclusions.

Second question, you simply don’t let them. You calmly keep repeating your question, pointing out their intentional ignoring, stating that you will only talk with them about anything else after this question is answered, until they either get so mad as to run away, or they respond to it. But you have to actually stay strong, and not allow them to do it. Depending on other things that need to be communicated, and how stubborn they are, that will hurt yourself as well as them since other important stuff for you might not get communicated. But that is something that needs to be tolerated, because breaking from the original intention is worse for the future, it shows that ignoring the question works, and they’ll repeat it.

he was sort of always pushing her daily.

This is exactly what it sounded like. Glad you’ve got this information, now I’ve got more things to say.

What he’s doing comes from a perfectly nice and helpful place. He actually sees her behavior hurt herself and wants to help her hurt less.

But you should never “help” someone in this way. It’s the worst thing he can possibly do, it actually only makes things worse.

The only way you can help people is by being there for them and assisting them on their own path. In other words, the only way you can be a positive force is by letting them do whatever the fuck they want, and helping them with that. If “whatever the fuck they want” does not include “getting out of the depression” and “getting rid of anxiety”, then there’s literally nothing you can do. If you try to get them to do actions that you think might be good for them, even if they actually were good for them if they wanted to do them, if they don’t want to do them by themselves all you’re doing is just making them feel worse for “being wrong”.

It might even be the case that she wants to get out of depression or get rid of her anxiety, but she’s taking the wrong actions for it. And he may be trying to get her to do “better actions”, that actually accomplish what was set out to do. Even that doesn’t work. She has to get to the “better actions” herself. You can maybe ask questions, or point out that the “current action” doesn’t seem to be working, but the idea to change her actions has to come from herself.

That is the only way people change. People change by their own will, or they don’t. As another person, you can basically just be with them and watch. Anything much more and you’re starting to fuck things up more instead of help.

but told me she won’t do anything if he doesn’t stay on about it until it’s done

Then she should be doing nothing. He should be doing his own thing. She either comes out of it by herself, or doesn’t. “Staying on about it” gets things done, but it also makes them both more miserable.