I agree with all of this, except the first point, and that’s the reason I’m leaving a comment rather than a vote:
I’m annoyed at calling people who dislike an app and choose another website “refugees”
“Refugees” aren’t people who “do not like the app”. I agree that the term is poorly chosen, and offensive to actual refugees who had to leave their lives, home, and a good part of their identity behind, because of a traumatic, catastrophic event; and that “explat” (for “ex-platform”, a play on words with “expatriates”) would be a more fitting term, but the “explat” actually came over because they have never liked the app, except now, it is forced onto them. Moving over isn’t a choice for many, the choice is actually between “not using any reddit-like service at all anymore” or “using what exists aside from reddit”. And in that context, I think you can clearly see why the “refugee” term came to mind (of privileged people who failed to see the humanitarian implications and the belittling of dramatic experiences and suffering of others).
Actually it is very much central.
Gender is a LARP construct forced onto us by social norms derived from religion. It does exist in our brains, and is every bit as real as the next thing; but unlike physically verifiable facts (like our sex, that we need to modify with a knife), it only exists because we think of it (like money, that we can gain simply by persuading others). We should really be at the very least conscious that our fight for tolerance wrt individual gender expression has nothing to do with our sexual parts, everything to do with the artificial restrictions, limitations, gatekeeping, and denial that society as a whole, and many of its members, are literally forcing onto us.
The fight isn’t about boobs, asses, and genitalia. The fight is about using unrelated, and unrelatable, physical attributes (sex, skin color, or anything else), to coerce, dominate, emprison, and kill.
If we miss that central point, and let the ill intended offenders frame the narrative, we have already lost.