My sister Lena (14F) used to be friends with and is in some friend group with a sporty girl named Ashlyn (14F). She is essentially what the teens call a “pick me girl”, or someone who puts other women down to gain attention from men.
She’s nice to people she doesn’t know. She’s nice to guys. She’s nice to the teachers, and even nice to the few girls she genuinely likes in her friend group. But every other girl? Hell nah. She thinks she’s more masculine, likable, and better at sports than every other girl and has successfully convinced her friends that her rudeness is just “a joke”, but I know damn well it isn’t.
She seems to be well-liked in the school despite not liking anyone but a few people because she doesn’t show her true colors. She also has a completely different demeanor in public than when they’re alone, and as I stated, is a very manipulative and self-centered person.
When she’s around others, she’ll be pretty nice or normal towards Lena, and like I said, played it off as a joke the few times she showed her true self in public, then said “It’s not your fault, Lena”. When they’re alone, however, she acts the same way as the friend group does when Ashlyn’s around: dry, distant, monotone, etc.
Ashlyn asks Lena to do her favors but hasn’t done ANYTHING for Lena. Whenever Lena asks her a question or tells her something, she just says “Mhm/K/Cool” or nods/gives a thumbs up without making eye contact. She then told Lena she doesn’t care about what she has to say, never has, never will care about her, and doesn’t care about anyone or anything. And it’s pretty odd that she wants Lena of all people to know that.
Ashlyn also believes she’s entitled to girls’ boyfriends and tries to steal them from the girls. Lena’s male friend tried to excuse her behavior and say “She’s just having a bad day/People don’t like it when they’re asked questions or others talk about their achievements”. Number 1: A bad day consistently for years?? Even so, it’s not an excuse. Number 2: Most people will congratulate you, they don’t behave like this. And most people don’t like when they’re asked PERSONAL questions, not just innocent ones.
I know she’s 10 years younger than me (I’m 24) but I don’t like her either.
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As a former teenager and father of teenagers, I can attest to the fact that teenagers do suck. But it’s tough being a teen and trying to find a place that you feel like you belong. Feeling accepted by someone that you think of as equal or better than yourself is really important at that time. With you no longer being in that phase of your life, it’s pretty normal for you to see shitty teenage behavior and want to call it out for what it is.
hopefully someone creates a /c/AmIOverreacting . while that community grows, i guess we can just crosspost to asklemmy directing lemmings to go original post
reddit has both /r/AmIOverreacting and /r/AIO and both are active, but the former has more comments