It happened to me recently at work. I don’t even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I’m into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn’t like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It’s like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.
Anyone else have anything similar?
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When I was in the Marines we had an assignment where I was in a small group of men and there was one woman with us. She was a great Marine but probably one of the most manly and dogged women I have ever met. She could probably put me through a brick wall easily. Hopefully you get the type I’m referring too.
Anyways nobody was into her at first but after a few weeks a couple of the guys started getting into fights over who was going to “get with her first”.
I think it’s situational but if you’re “hungry enough” you start making exceptions to what you previously said no too.
Sadly I think this might be a big part of it. I’m glad I posted because now I have a clearer understanding. Cheers.
Male Marines would fuck any woman. Get stationed in Camp Hansen. After a few months, any vagina is appealing. When going out in groups, the Marine that hooks up with the least appealing girl of a group (typically overweight), is highly appreciated and their contribution is called “jumping on the grenade” for taking a hit so that the other Marines could get laid.
When I was 20, we went to Spain for a joint exercise. I hooked up with a ~45 y/o Spanish woman. Best head ever.
There are so many contributing factors to attraction of any kind.
Romantic partners are literally sniffing out each other’s immune systems. For all you know, the two of you could have had the world’s most compatible immune system, capable of producing offspring invincible to all know diseases, despite disliking each other. Nature is weird
Yes, I’ve been with a girl like that for 2 years. My friends told me that I could get better looking women and found 8t strange I hooked up with her but my god, she got me going. Also, she was a nymphomaniac. That’s the main reason we broke up. Having sex twice a day takes the fun out of it if you’re not a sex addict. I encountered her a few weeks ago. She gained a lot of weight but I still wanted to screw her badly. It’s totally weird.
We are indeed a bizarre species.
let me guess, neither of you use strong parfumes, so you bodies get to tell each other you’d be a good genetic mix.
She does use a strong perfume. But it has been the same for about 20 years.
Reminds me of the late /r/Trashyboners
Very much like that, yes. But unwillingly. :-(
I have that problem with Lauren Boebert. I find her repulsive. To me, she’s a terrible person. But, I bet she’s wild in bed, and I would totally hook up with her disgusting ass if the right opportunity came up.
✋🏳️🌈ACCEPTANCE🏳️🌈🤚
Could be worse and be Marjorie Taylor Greene. I think with Boebert, it’s the glasses that do it just like with Sarah Palin a little over a decade ago.
That’s the reason I quit drinking
I find lots of physically hot people are quite arrogant cause they always have people chasing after them
Disgusted spiteful sex is one of the best types of sex.
I missed out. Damn.
Go split her in two like a piece of balsa wood, young padawan!
Actually, one of my exes really liked a song called Fuck Me Like You Hate Me. She was also quite hatable. It added some spice in the bedroom, but a high price was paid. I’m not really interested in revisiting that…
By Seether? I take it? It’s one of my favorites by them, its got a good beat to it lol
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Yes, that’s the one. I prefer their cover of Careless Whisper, personally. That song also has a very strong her-to-me vibe.
Yes. Many times. I’m a woman btw. I never got anywhere with these people though, probably for the best. (Not sure if in your case you did?)
As in, hook up with the person? Haha no that didn’t happen. I thought the same as you, probably for the best.
Very often. There are multiple kinds of attraction, esthetic and sexual don’t always overlap 100%. Meaning to say sexual attraction is not just visual - attitude, vibe, voice, smell, etc also play a role.
And none of it means you will get along with them on the personality level.
It’s just life. Part of interacting with other humans.
That makes sense. There was a brief period that we actually got along, joked around etc. That was cool. Then it went back to the grinding awkwardness.
I get this all the time. In the past I acted on this sort of attraction, sometimes even hooking with the woman in question, but nowadays I don’t do it because it’s more trouble than it’s worth.
Care to share any stories?
I was drinking in a bar, some 6~7 years ago, with friends. Eventually the friends went back home. But I’m a slow drinker, and I was in an exceptionally social mood, and alone.
Then there was this woman, roughly my age, on a nearby table. We chatted a bit; not to hook up, but because both were bored, alone, and fairly sober. Talking about random stuff; she was the type of person whom I’d avoid in most situations, I certainly don’t care about her nails, what her sister did, and her church, and I bloody hate food-smelling perfume.
Frankly, I found her repulsive. Shallow, extra needy, and goddamn dumb. But damn, it would be bullshit if I said that I wasn’t sexually attracted to her so I started flirting (ready to back down if she showed no interest) and she reciprocated. We spent the night together at her place. Sex was great, but then she started texting me every. fucking. day, to talk about the same sort of random shit that she was talking in the bar, and inviting me over again.
After that I decided “yeah, nah, I’m not thinking with my dick any more”.
Pheromones
Yes. 2 decades ago I met someone I wasn’t attracted to physically, and we had no common interests at all. However she was quite independent and just a smidge dominant and she had one goal: she wanted to sleep with me. That alone lead us down a brief fling which ended with a one night stand. The night was sleepless and enjoyable, but we split up after.
I don’t regret it.
I still occasionally talk to her (as a friend).
Typically, for me, it’s been a situation where the guy was really physically attractive, but a an absolutely horrible person.
Interesting, I have found myself sexually attracted to some older women that aren’t really that attractive physically but they give off kind of a sultry vibe, but I couldn’t say I found them repulsive in any way, does that ring familiar?